Today I had a discussion with a friend ... on whether diplomacy is god gifted or man made ... n whether this man mad trait .. if at all it is one ... is good or bad generally ...
Later in the day, I thought about it alot ... and realised that nothing is god gifted ... i mean even if things are gifted .. they will be in the primitive stage ... unless u dwell on them, u wont excel ... so yes diplomacy is acquired. Its like an art ... a degree ... that u get only when u practice it ... learning by experience .. :)
Now this acquired art can be good or bad ... depending on the circumstances. Actually I hate to use the words good or bad ... I mean what is good and bad according me will always be influenced by my prejudices ... and since its always relative ... I have no right to call anything good or bad, unless I got facts to back my beliefs ...
So if I feel m straight faced ... and someone else is diplomatic ... so what ... I like to be straight forward ... n the other person likes being socially correct all the time ... different people and different perspectives ... There just one law that applies here ... comparative advantage ... If I specialize in some trait that I can sell ... and if I gain coz of the sales ... it means its worth it !! So if you are diplomatic (or if u like to be one) ... and can sell it well ... with no gains and no loss situation (ur actions do not effect others) ... then dude ... its worth it !! And if in case u fall in the category of extremes ... (like me) ... does'nt hurt to be one ... till the time you are urself ... n love urself and dont hurt anybody else ... who cares ... what characteristics u have or u dont have ...
Conclusion :) ... why judge anybody ... diplomatic or whatever ... we r individuals ... and let that individuality remain ... if u feel hurt or something coz of somebody ... go kick his/her butt ... rather than wasting time in knowing him or her ... :P ...
Later in the day, I thought about it alot ... and realised that nothing is god gifted ... i mean even if things are gifted .. they will be in the primitive stage ... unless u dwell on them, u wont excel ... so yes diplomacy is acquired. Its like an art ... a degree ... that u get only when u practice it ... learning by experience .. :)
Now this acquired art can be good or bad ... depending on the circumstances. Actually I hate to use the words good or bad ... I mean what is good and bad according me will always be influenced by my prejudices ... and since its always relative ... I have no right to call anything good or bad, unless I got facts to back my beliefs ...
So if I feel m straight faced ... and someone else is diplomatic ... so what ... I like to be straight forward ... n the other person likes being socially correct all the time ... different people and different perspectives ... There just one law that applies here ... comparative advantage ... If I specialize in some trait that I can sell ... and if I gain coz of the sales ... it means its worth it !! So if you are diplomatic (or if u like to be one) ... and can sell it well ... with no gains and no loss situation (ur actions do not effect others) ... then dude ... its worth it !! And if in case u fall in the category of extremes ... (like me) ... does'nt hurt to be one ... till the time you are urself ... n love urself and dont hurt anybody else ... who cares ... what characteristics u have or u dont have ...
Conclusion :) ... why judge anybody ... diplomatic or whatever ... we r individuals ... and let that individuality remain ... if u feel hurt or something coz of somebody ... go kick his/her butt ... rather than wasting time in knowing him or her ... :P ...
4 comments:
In life nothing is god gifted. You are born with whatever you have earned during your numerous previous birth and death cycles. Your genetic map is loaded with all your such earnings and will bear fruit in proper time. When you plant a mango tree sapling, it bears mangoes in its own predestined time. Same with every soul born on earth.
You do not have to be diplomatic in life unless of course your are employed in the ministry of external affairs and you are paid for it.!!
The more you refrain yourself from commenting on others and others affairs,the less diplomatic you will need to be. Both are inversely proportional.
Good and Bad are socially relevant words. A line needs to be drawn somewhere after all and therefore their applicability. It is very limited though but relevant at the proper time.
Keep up your brave attitude towards life. Life is god gifted for sure not the attributes you are born with. Leave some decisions to destiny.
God bless
I agree with you Uncle.
External Ministry argument is well put :) .. I would want to be a apart of it some day ... tough in my own way !! the no diplomacy attitude is something I cant get rid off somehow :)
Dear ReaLiDealist
Your signature name is at variance at what your thinking conveys.
Ask yourself, why do I need to be diplomatic?
Try this experiment. Decide to be straightforward and NON Diplomatic for one week. Then record each day in your diary.At the end of the day reflect and note; did anything out of the routine occur by my being undiplomatic. Do this for one whole week. Let me know how many friends you lost at the end of the week.
Every individual has the notion that he is singly responsible for the happiness of the other person and no matter what, try to humour him,keep him happy even you have to lie. This is simply an attitude developed over years.Change it,please. You will see how much you have unburdened yourself by being simply your own truthful self.
Everytime you are diplomatic,you are lying. As simple as that.Shocked? Well be. It helps sometimes.
Get on with the experiment from new year day onwards.
God Bless.
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ha ha ... uncle the problem is that m way too non diplomatic ... and at the end of it ... its hurts being so straight forward and simple ... but seems cant learn that art so easy ...
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